Community Success!

Community Service!!In addition to study, as you know I am involved with rugby but additionally I have been volunteering with a community development organisation, Cherry D. Cherry D (said with an American accent is “charity”) uses a technical assistance model to help local community groups improve themselves. This is the same model that Peace Corps used and it is one I believe in. I approached Cherry D as a way to help Bristol and get to know it better. I feel strongly that you should donate a bit of time where ever you live to improving the community. It makes you feel more connected especially if you are not considered a local person.

Cherry D was kind enough to pair me up with an organisation called Changes. Changes is a group for people suffer from anxiety and depression as well as a few other diseases. It uses a 12 step method to help people and try to offset the lack of mental health services from the National Health Service (NHS).

Since January, I have been working Changes to develop a strategic plan and put in place a foundation for organisational growth. Currently, it has three weekly groups but it wanted to grow and push into new areas of the city that are disadvantaged and have a population in need of mental health services. The group is lead by passionate people who suffer from mental health issues but see talking therapy as a way to combat the issues.

I have been working closely with the organisation’s leadership to help the go through an interspective process of deciding how to develop Changes. Part of that process was preparing documents for submission to the Tutor Trust for a grant of £120,000 ($240,000) for three years. I am happy to say that after a few months of hard work and lots of discussion, the Tutor Trust awarded Changes the grant! I am very proud this came together! I did not do much of the work but as an adviser, this is my biggest grant application award to date.

I am very happy I was able to help Changes as through this project I have met some great people and made Bristol a bit more hospitable that it would otherwise be. I am proud to have supported Cherry D in their efforts to help Bristol. At the end of the day, life is about people and investing in others. I am excited to help Changes move to the next level of organisational development. They need a bit of bureaucracy and accountability as part of their organisational culture. They are a young group and it will be exciting to see how these funds help them grow to help more people who suffer from mental health issues.

So Much for Citizenship

It appears that Anoush is not entitled to dual citizenship due to a law change in the mid-80’s.  Found here, the law has a caveat that says the parents must be residents.  Of course, our student visas have us placed in a grey area.  I must admit, I was hoping she would have dual citizenship especially for future educational opportunities.

This new information does make me appreciate American laws even more.  Come to find out, most countries in the world do not grant citizenship at birth on their sovereign soil.  Some countries mandate a religion and/or ethnicity in order to be eligible for citizenship.  Of course, the developed countries offer humanitarian visas and avenues to citizenship which is to be commended.

Regardless of citizenship, the future is bright for Anoush as she has lots of choices available to her.

Week 1 Highlights

It’s been an incredibly fast week – the speed of which I’ll write more about later in a few days. Here are some of the things that I’ll cherish and remember about the first week with Anoush in our lives:

  • Hearing from so many friends and family
  • Feeling very loved
  • Learning to type one-handed
  • Baby hiccups
  • Being amazed at the capacity of the human body
  • Smothering myself in lanolin (you new moms can relate)
  • Moments of hormone-induced insanity – can you say Dr Jekyll and Mommy Hyde?
  • First baby bath at home
  • Getting accustomed to the baby sling/carrier
  • Switching from disposable to cloth diapers
  • So much laundry!
  • Endless humming and singing to Anoush
  • Looking one more time before crossing the road
  • Being ridiculously excited to finally have a dirty diaper
  • Listening to Jason console me about the fact that what I’m feeling (in the midst of my rollercoaster) is normal
  • Being amazed and humbled by his patience, nurturing and support

Click here to enjoy some more pictures of Anoush’s first week.

Pictures of Anoush’s First Few Days

Here are some pictures of Anoush’s first few days. She is changing so quickly, it’s amazing to us!

Preparations for MTV

People have been asking to see pictures of Anoush with her eyes open. We did one better with a music video. Music credit to The Be Good Tanyas singing “The Littlest Birds”. I thought this video was a fun way of showing you Anoush searching for her hands.

Anoush’s First Outing

We visited a local cafe called CAKE where Terra’s “Mommy’s Yoga” Group Members meet for a bit of socialising and good cake. We also took some pictures so if you are not a broadband user, those will be posted shortly. If you are on a slow connection that causes the video to be jumpy, you can wait for the video to load but then click the pause button just as it starts. Wait a few minutes and then click the pause button and it will play without problem. Dial-up users can do the same thing but you will have to leave your computer connected and paused for an hour or more for the video to download.

Feelings of Early Motherhood

Well, it wasn’t a conventional birth, but I would not go back and change any of it. All unexpected elements considered, it went very well! Everyone involved was very helpful, reassuring and calm. Jason was fantastically supportive. Although we both thought I was simply going crazy as the labour progressed at lightning speed, when I told him he needed to call the hospital, he didn’t hesitate and was collected about the entire experience. I am so thankful to have a husband with a strong sensibility about him.

Anoush’s birthing experience in no way deters me from wanting to have more children. We’ll just have to live at the hospital for my last month of pregnancy next time!

Anoush is a little sweet pea, and we are enjoying her so much! We always had a feeling that the baby would be a little girl. She’s already gaining better control of her eyes, head and neck. She’s taking after both of her parents and turning into a thumb sucker. Interestingly, she seems to be keeping a similar schedule to what she had in-utero: wakeful early afternoon and late evening, quiet morning and midday. She’s gotten the hang of feeding quite well and is doing so with more frequency now. The first two days, she slept for hours and hours on end, followed by feeding for hours at a time. Things have evened out a bit more today. Last night, she slept for five hours straight without hardly a stir or peep.

I am feeling quite well today. Better than yesterday, although I can’t say that I have felt badly at all. I attribute that to having kept very active during the pregnancy – getting outside nearly every day for a walk, doing yoga and stretching often, and most importantly, having a positive outlook.

Everyone’s wonderful support and love has been overwhelming. I said to Jason yesterday that I feel similar to the weekend of our wedding. So many friends and family sending well-wishes and feeling so loved. Thank you all for your wonderful comments, phone calls, and emails. I’m sure you’ll understand if it takes me awhile to get back to you, but know that your communication is much appreciated!

I must also acknowledge my incredibly supportive husband! He’s been so wonderful – at the birth and every moment afterward. Cooking, doing dishes, going to the store, making me tea, asking me a million times a day if I need anything, changing diapers…the list goes on and on. Anoush loves being snuggled by her Daddy. She spent some time sleeping on his chest this morning, which was adorable. He’s simply fantastic with her!

We’ll be posting regularly on the website, so keep coming back for more.